I know its been a while...I had some time off of everything including my blog. The weird thing is I had SO many written blog post saved in my drafts that I never sent out. So I want to apologize because some of my post coming up will be post I had written in January/February. I wanted to start with this one because well the title says it already and lately i have been feeling off. So let's talk about it.
I wanted to check in with you guys all and ask how are YOU doing? If you ask me on my good days I will say I'm doing just fine. I'm hanging in there and taking things day by day. However, If you ask me on my not so great days I will lie and say I'm doing great even though I'm silently dying inside! The difference is knowing and acknowledging when that's not all true. Sometimes we can find ourselves lying to ourself about how we are feeling or doing because we don't want to admit we aren't okay. This is because the reality of whatever is causing us to feel emotionally/mentally drained affects us more than we would like to admit. Do you recognize some of the ways you know you aren't okay but pretend to be? I do. Some of the ways that I can tell that I am not okay are: Overthinking, Comparing where you are at right now to where you want to be, Over working yourself, asking/wondering "What is my Purpose" and having no motivation.
Overthinking can lead to me not being okay because I constantly create scenarios in my head that causes me to self reflect. This is also a huge thing that can cause self doubt.
When you begin to self doubt you have no confidence in yourself. You start to believe that you are not capable of accomplishing anything. This then leads me to compare myself to others. Comparison is like a thief, it takes away from your achievements. I tend to physically compare myself to others when I'm at the gym for example. I think one of the biggest struggles is social media. I noticed I can get so caught up with looking at other girls post wishing to be where they're at in their journey at the gym. When in reality a lot of them might be BBL's or their post are edited. Why is it that I often view them and admire their accomplishments but can't admire my own even when I put the same efforts. I get it now. I see why people delete their instagram's or go off of it for a bit. It can be mentally draining and I can speak for myself, it does become overwhelming. I try to remind myself that people only post what they want you to see, never behind the scenes. Instead of looking at what others have my advice is to appreciate what you have. How can we continue to move forward if we are stuck in the phase of "why can't I have that too"? If you find yourself comparing yourself to others just as I do..this is your reminder that you aren't alone and that we must stop hurting ourselves by doing that.
Overworking yourself: This occurs picking up shifts at work in order to not think of everything else that is occuring around you. Although, the gym can be a form of therapy it can also become a place to avoid all other problems you maybe facing. Asking yourself, "What is my Purpose" Often time's I think to myself what am I here for? What is life's purpose for me? Truth is, we all have a purpose. We are here for a reason. Chosen by the most high specifically for our parents. Can you imagine a world without you here? I hope not. You matter, you are loved, you are worthy and you can do all things through christ who strengthens you. That is what I like to remind myself. Everything is always easier said than done of course. I recently sat with one of my friends and she suggested I write down 3 things I am grateful for everyday. This feeling of not feeling like you have a purpose ties in with no motivation. Personally, when I find myself having these bad thoughts it puts me in a lazy mood. I don't feel like doing anything or talking to anyone.
------your body doesn't know how to differentiate negative talk to and from yourself. Stop comparing yourself to people. -------
Acknowledge when you aren't okay (These are just some signs I thought of)
Feeling anxious
sleep difficulties (insomnia)
Headaches/tiredness
Those are just a couple of things that I could think of in which I feel sometimes. We must admit and be self aware when we are going through it. How I cope with these things, I usually journal or talk to my best friend. It doesn't do us any good to bottle things up inside. Everyone has moments in which they struggle. Whether we like to admit it or not, we are all facing battles silently..some of us just feel the pressure a bit more than others. It is important to accept our feelings and remember that we are not alone. You can seek support from your family, friends or professionals like a therapist in order to better navigate your feelings. Some other things I would recommend are self-care days. For example, go out on a walk, go to the gym, read a book, or just listen to music. Make sure that you are getting some rest as it is much needed. Please remember you are never alone and that you are truly loved! From one person who sometimes is not okay, I promise you will be <3.
Thanks for reading and if no one has reminded you or has told you recently.. I will say it again you matter, you are loved and you are appreciated. Xoxo.
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